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Wedding ceremony ideas?

We originally wanted the wine ceremony ~ but our wedding will (weather willing!) be outdoors & I am super clumsy ~ to big a chance that a big gust of wind or my shaking hands will spill the wine on my dress, so that idea is out. My fiancé likes the sand ceremony, but I don't really care for it. Neither of us wants the unity candle, rose, or handfasting. Does anyone else have any ideas? Seen anything especially different or nice? We aren't religious, so anything with religious overtones is out, but other wise we are open to suggestion. Normally, I pick a best answer ~ but no one answered my question. The salt ceremony is *just like* the sand ceremony... and I already mentioned that we don't want the rose ceremony. Moon, we did speak w/each other about this. What does that have to do with the question? Soon to be Mrs. if we had any ideas of our own, we wouldn't have posted the question here ;) And finally, while harp music is very nice it really doesn't answer the question. Again, no one actually answered the question, so I am leaving this one up to the voters. Thanks, anyway...

Public Comments

1. its best if u talk it out with him that way u two can agree on what u want. write a list of what u what and have him do the same thing. then choose together something that will do.
2. I think you named most of the ideas that I have. Maybe you can make up your own? Or you can release doves?
3. I know you don't want religious overtones but just because it was done in biblical times doesn't mean that you can't use it. The person who performs the ceremony can give just a short explanation (given below - and say in olden times or something) of the reason you're using salt or you could put the reason in the program. The Salt Covenant is a loyalty pact. In biblical times men carried a pinch of salt on their belts. When two men wanted to make a covenant of loyalty, each would take some salt from his pouch and sprinkle it in the other man's pouch. Then they stated their terms of their agreement and shook their salt pouches, mingling the grains of salt. Shaking the salt pouches reminded them that the covenant could not be broken, because it was no longer possible to go into the other man's pouch and retreive the original grains that each had deposited. Therefore, the pact is binding and eternal as which signifies your union-- binding and forever. Numbers 18:19 Leviticus 2:13 2 Chronicles 13:5 Following is an example of wording for the ceremony. Plan to have soft music playing during this part of the service. UNITY SALT CEREMONY After the minister reads the statement below, pour two containers of salt into a third, wide-mouthed, container simultaneously: _______________ and ______________, today you join your separate lives together. The two separate bottles of salt symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of friends. They represent all that you are and all that you’ll ever be as an individual. They also represent your lives before today. As these two containers of salt are poured into the third container, the individual containers of salt will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of salt can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.
4. Wedding music can make the ceremony more unique. Maybe you could hire a harpist...those are really beautiful. And they are suprisingly affordable too.
5. We had a red rose ceremony. Not really religious, but it is about the meaning of what the red rose means. So whenever you do something that you need to say you are sorry for....leave a red rose for your partner. It meant so much to us that in every bouquet of flowers, my husband always includes one red rose. He also planted a red rose bush in the house that we bought.