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wedding ceremony!?!?!?

My boyfriend and I would like to make our own ceremony without being legal cause of situations and problems right now! But we want to do this, to show each other we will still be with one another! So, we were thinking of doing this ourselves, no one else, just me and him! What are some idea's of what to do, and what to say and all! I know all the 'I take thee (name) to be my ...etc...- but anything else? Any idea's at all! And the reason we doni't want to do it legally is b/c we'd want to keep it a secret, and too scared of our parents finding out and causeing problems right now! I'm 19, he's 21 if i wanted to make my parents mad, i'd go enlope and tell them eventually- but thats not it! And yes, we are commited- but he has been gone for Iraq, and is leaving again this thursday...we want to do something speical.....incase something happens..... yes, you can say a commitment ceremony insead, thats what it is!

Public Comments

1. Run off to Vegas!!!
2. Then it wouldn't really be a wedding ceremony--more like a dedication between the two of you. You're mistake though: you don't need a marriage to show commitment to each other. That shouldn't be the reason you're doing it. It sounds less like you're doing it because you love him and more like you're young and want to make your parents mad. If you can't be honest about your relationship, being married isn't going to make a difference.
3. just go elope. don't tell your parents for awhile.
4. A wedding should be something you want to share with all those you love...maybe, if you're too scared to tell your parents you want to get married, then you shouldn't be getting married. I think the 2 of you need to grow up a little bit, then get married.
5. So in other words he wants to have sex, but you'd rather wait until you are married so you came up with this creative solution? What I don't get is that you both are legally of age, so what's the big deal?
6. Hi. Just look online for verses if you really want. Or....write something up yourself. As you said, it's not legal, so you can really say anything! It's really a commitment ceremony...not a wedding ceremony.
7. I feel like I'm not getting the whole story... if you aren't ready for marriage then don't get married. Beyond that, the two of you just need to promise to each other that you will be faithful until his return, and make it known that you love one another. You don't need a silly meaningless ritual to prove your love.
8. So sorry to hear he is going away again! Desperate times sometimes call for desperate measures; that's an old saying that sortof applies here! I think it's great that you guys want to have a commitment ceremony before he leaves! It will really mean a lot to you both to remember those special words! You could just each write your own "vows" and say or read them to each other. They don't have to be formal; just say what's in your hearts! Dress up, light some candles, say your vows & have a romantic dinner or something! I think it's a great idea! Best wishes to you!
9. I think you should just say what's in your heart toward each other. People write their own vows for wedding ceremonies all the time, so there's no reason you couldn't just write down how you feel and what you intend to do to show your commitment to each other.
10. oh thats really sweet, go and get some rings go to a park or somewhere special to the both of you and say ur vows n make a commitment to eachother. say i take thee .... to be my partner and i will be here when you return
11. I don't think that would really be a wedding. Go elope for goodness sakes and make it legal.If you are not legally married you may not have any lawful rights to anything of his.