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Wedding ceremony.....?

My deployed Hubby & I got married 4mths ago before he deployed to Iraq. We had a VERY small wedding & I mean small , maybe 5 people . We wanted to do it before he left. At 1st I didn't want anything big & I still don't but ALOT of family members didn't get to share the joy with us . Do you think we should have a nice reception and renewal of vows when he comes home ? Or just have a big wedding with the church and attendants , etc ?

Public Comments

1. Reception is cool
2. I say do what you would like to do... My brother had a very small ceremony also... For those that were not able to attend, they had a wonderful reception and everyone had a great time... they also did a short "re-enactment" of the vows in full dress... I thought it was great!
3. That depends on your financial situation. Whatever you can realistically afford, then do it. But don't go into debt just to share it with others. To me, that day is not as important as all the days you share together for the rest of your life!
4. No you are already married...just a huge party or reception would be nice.
5. You can throw a throw a party, like an anniversary party. Remember to indicate "no gifts, please", since people weren't at the ceremony. A renewal of vows isn't the chance to have 'another wedding'.
6. Hi and congratulations! First of all....thank you to your husband for his service to our Country. Second....I can't believe no one posted this....While I am NOT a fan of "wedding do-overs," I do think in your case it would be perfectly acceptable. Many on here have a "civil" ceremony and then a larger ceremony when they can afford it. Your case it a little different, as I can certainly understand why you would want to be married before your husband left for Iraq. Depending on your financial situation and if anyone is willing to help you with this.....either (a) have a renewal of vows ceremony with a nice reception...OR (b) have the church wedding with attendants, etc. The only thing with the church wedding.....make sure your pastor/minister/priest is onboard with this idea prior to making all your plans. Let him/her know that you are already legally married and ask for their guidance of how you would go about doing this in the church. Have a reception too! Enjoy your day! Merry Christmas!