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A meaningful way to include our 3 sons in our wedding ceremony?

We're getting married, and just now starting the planning process of our wedding. He has 2 sons, ages 8 and 9, and I have a son, age 11. We'd love to include them in the wedding ceremony, just not sure what would be the best way. Any suggestions?

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1. They could be ushers, seating the guests and escorting family members to their seats.
2. maybe the youngest can be the ring bearer and the 2 older can stand up there with him as his grooms men....
3. Have them light candles or seat people or assist folks with parking.
4. When my husband and I were married he had 2 kids and I had 2 kids--we said our vows and then each of us turned to the others children and vowed to be the best parent and to love them forever and then gave each child their own small gold ring which was a replica of ours. They still love those rings
5. It would be great if they would be ushers, esp. the 9 & 11 year old. All three could also hand out the ceremony programs at the doorway. They could also hand out the rice to throw. They could also hand out favors at the doorway in the hall or hand out the seating cards.
6. you could all light the unity candle. have the large candle in the middle, two bigger candles for you & your fiance, & 3 smaller candles for the boys.
7. When we got married, my husband`s son was 19 and him and my husband lite their unity candle together and he was also best man. My 18 year old and 9 year old sons walked me down the aisle and we lite our unity candle together then they went and stood by my husband`s son. It went really well and they were all included. My 9 year old loved it, he felt so important.
8. I have officiated lots of ceremonies with children from both sides, all ages. This depends on how large a role you want them to play in your wedding. They are joining into this marriage too, why would you have them playing a small role. You might consider a Sand Ceremony in place of the Unity Candle. You can find wording on the links below. Ask your wedding officiate for ideas to include the children into the ceremony. I know some children act like they don't want to but I have not had a child that was not excited and pleased to be included into the ceremony. I have had some read a poem for the parents. Ask them what roles they might want to participate in, give them a list of ideas. Congratulations to you all. If you have any questions for including them or wording just email me and I will gladly help. twooaksweddings@cox.net include in the subject line this web site