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We have been married since January, we exchanged rings (his=titanium, mine=turned my finger green)?

We didn't have alot of $ going into this quick marrage (he deployed to Kosovo for a year. I spent a bit more on his ring and the rings that were there that fit were too expensive..so i got one of the fake sets from the $9.98 rack at wal-mart. So heres the ? he wants to get me an engagement/wedding ring set...isnt it a bit late for an engagement set, since were already married and such now? (i have bee looking at a simple white gold band for less than $40.00. its the thought that counts here...

Public Comments

1. You can get some really beautiful sets for pretty cheap. If you don't feel like it would 'meaningful' to get an engagement ring anymore (since you're already married) wait until your first or tenth anniversary and get a beautiful ring that goes with your wedding band then. That's what my dad did for my mother since they didn't have a lot of money when they got married. But she got a beautiful solitaire diamond for her 10th anniversary present.
2. its the thought that counts, dont base your relationship on the amount of the ring, base it on the priceless on his feelings. maybe he couldnt afford a priceless ring or maybe his heart is huge and his pockets arnt. just be greatful that you have him.
3. I think he is being sweet by wanting to get you something like that. A lot of women wear their engagement rings and wedding bands together now. Therefore, he could get you a set now and you could wear them both; if you wanted to. If not, then just get a band. But, I would let him do this if he really wanted to
4. That happened to me too. My first husband and I bought cheap ones, and the reason they turned green, is because of the low grade metal, plus, my finger was continually getting infected and the skin peeling. He eventually bought me a more expensive one after getting married, so yes, it IS ok, to upgrade. I eventually got divorced, because he could not provide for the both of us, and it was a passing thing. So yes, if I were you, and you ARE planning to stay together, I would upgrade, and who's to say NOT to? It's no one elses' business what you do in this case. Things are different now, than in the old days. People were sheep in the old days, and stuck to what they were told to do, but now we think for ourselves, and do what is best, all around. Do upgrade. And make it a ceremony within yourselves. It is a special thing between yourselves, not anyone else. I would happily accept this new set of rings, and you will have this story to remember or to tell your children if and when you have some. Good Luck... And a big thank you, to your husband, for putting his neck on the line, for those of who are here just puttering along in our daily lives. A good guy. Keep him happy.
5. In my opinion, I'd much rather spend that money on a car, house, saving up for kids, or a vacation in Europe - especially since you're already married. If expensive jewelry is a high priority for you, perhaps you can ask for one for an anniversary (maybe 5 years?) That way you'll know more about your budget and there will be a reason for it, instead of just feeling "retroactive" about not having an engagement ring before.
6. I would let him choose. You seem like you are very easy to please and I am sure he would like to get you something nice. Remember you are going to have this set for many, many years to come! congrats
7. Let him buy you a set, sheesh! He'll choose something lovely for you.
8. It's seems a little crazy to you I know but it's never too late for an engagement ring. He's just trying to give you what he couldn't before. You can try to explain your reasoning to him on why you think it's a little wierd but more than likely you'll probably bruise his ego in the process. It's best if you let him do it. After all he knows his financial limits im sure and he'll feel good in the process. I know this sounds wierd but I was your best answer on your question about your step daughter. How did everything work out for you?
9. If you can afford it I think its fair. He got a nice one, its your turn. Never too late! Buy somethign that will last and that you love!